We are a non violent people. I have always taught my kids "we use our words." Physical violence is not tolerated. As an early childhood teacher I have spent countless hours attending in-service trainings on conflict resolution. I work with at-risk children. Poverty, violence & substance abuse are a way of life for the vast majority of them. I dealt with challenging behaviors all day long in the classroom.
But I am not his teacher or his parent.
Take today for instance. It was a sunny, fall afternoon here in the Land of OZ and Einstein (10) was playing at the rocks with some of the neighborhood kids. The kids love climbing, finding sticks and being at one with nature. This space does not belong to any one person or family though it may be next to certain houses. What should have been a great day outdoors with some friends ends up ruining my son's day.
The freckle faced punk (and I can say that since I too am freckle faced!) cannot be nice to anyone for any amount of time. He has to constantly degrade people and make inflammatory comments. And he gets away with it over and over.
And over again.
People won't stand up to him or are of the "boys will be boys mentality". Perhaps they don't want to stir the pot and make things awkward in the neighborhood. I learned a very long time ago-nearly six years ago to be exact- that there was no point in saying anything to his parents
If it happens at my house or to my kids then I handle it how I see fit. I even do this in front of his mom since she doesn't seem to want to handle it. Over the years she has had many opportunities to say something if she doesn't like it but she never has. Perhaps she is relieved that someone will deal with it? I have sent him home countless times over the years and banned him from playing at my house more than
Last time I had a little chat with him the punk stayed away for NINE days. That is a lifetime for an eight year old in this neighborhood (and nine days of sheer bliss for me!). While I really only intended to not drive him home for a day or two it was fine by me that he kept his distance.
I won't go into excruciating detail about what happened this afternoon but he was a
Unfortunately for me this happened at another neighbor's house. Einstein asked me not to go over there to talk to Freckle Faced Punk, which I can understand and will respect. That being said, I am NOT going to let him get away with it!
I will definitely have a talk with Tormentor tomorrow morning but since I cannot back out of my obligation what can I do?