Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Measuring a Marriage

I've been blogging for less than a year so there weren't many July posts for me to recycle but this is an important one. After eighteen months of living apart, Big Yankee and I were together again on our 13th anniversary.




July 3, 1999.

In a historic mansion, in front of family and friends Big Yankee and I pledged our love to each other.

In sickness and in health.

For better or worse.

We vowed to love each other through it all.

Thirteen Years.

Four Thousand seven hundred forty one days.

One daughter.

Two sons.

Three children.

Three apartments.

Three lay offs.

Three houses.
Four states.

Sixteen different jobs between us.

Eighteen months of a commuter marriage.

No one ever said marriage was going to be easy.

No one ever told me it was going to be so heartbreakingly difficult.

There were times I wasn't sure we would survive.

Times I thought we were too broken, too shattered.

Times the end of the tunnel was just another cavern of darkness.

Yet here we are-basking in the light at the end.

Together again.

I love you forever and always Big Yankee!

Happy Anniversary!

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45 comments:

Sara S said...

Great post! It's amazing the hard times that come & even more amazing that sometimes we just some how manage to get through them! Happy anniversary to you guys!

Pish Posh said...

Wonderful post! Congratulations Robbie!! Many years of happiness, and easier times ahead!! :)

Laurel said...

Congratulations Robbie!
Marriage is a wonderful, beautiful thing that is a crapload of work ;)
I am at 8 years and looking forward to many more.

Lance said...

Happy Anniversary

I like the rundown of everything. My and I have been married 4 years, my second marriage, her fourth. If we ran down all of our "stuff" the blog post would go on for thousands of words.

Congratulations

Robbie K said...

Thanks! There were times I wondered if we would come out on the other side.

Robbie K said...

Thanks..means a lot coming from you Professor!

Robbie K said...

It is a crapload of work...and no one tells you that!

Robbie K said...

Thanks...I started doing all our "stuff" and then it seemed to lose it's punch, KWIM? So I had to edit...

Stephanie B. @B4Steph said...

Happy Anniversary, Robbie & Big Yankee. Sweet post. You've navigated some rough waters, but sailed through. When times get tough in my life I like to think of stories like yours. Acknowledge the love and you'll make it to the other side!

Heidi said...

Aw, beautiful, Robbie. Happy Anniversary to you! Marriage can be tough, but, oh man, it can be worth it. I'm glad it is for you...for both of you. :)

Robbie K said...

Thanks so much--your comments are always so kind and poetic.

Robbie K said...

Thank you! It's been a hell of a ride but those times bring greater appreciation don't they?

Michelle Longo said...

Happy anniversary! Wishing you many years of happiness ahead!

Your Doctor's Wife said...

WOW! Yours is a relationship to emulate! Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!

TriGirl said...

Happy anniversary! It's so nice to know people stick out the tough times and find they get better :)

Joe said...

Wow, you move around almost as much as I did on active duty. Happy anniversary.

AnnMarie said...

Happy Anniversary! I love the honesty in this post...especially the "no one ever tells you" part in the comments. This is the stuff...the love after the heartbreakingly difficult times...that makes it worth it. Better times ahead, my friend. I can feel it.

mannahattamamma.com said...

great way to think about a marriage - those numbers add up, don't they, in all different ways. congrats on getting this far. We hit #14 this summer and I may have to borrow from you for my anniversary post...!

@dkotucker said...

Awwww Robbie! What a great post! Happy Anniversary to you and Big Yankee!!! So glad you are all together again under the same roof.

Congratulations! Diane

Bridgette said...

Inspiring :) You're a testament to believing in each other.

Dude of The House said...

It's never as easy as it looks in the movies. Congrats on 13 years Robbie. Keep it going.

Jessica said...

Awesome post! Straight to the point, very simple, yet you totally share the entire life you guys have experienced! Love the post!! Keep up the great work!!! =)

Jacqueline Bryant Campbell said...

Congratulations on 13 years! You and your husband clearly understand the meaning of those words you spoke then. My husband and I just chuckle at the young people now when we go to weddings -- they are so sweet, and so completely unaware of what those vows really mean. Our anniversary is the day before yours (this was #18).

Kim S. said...

Awwww... Congratulations. Yes, why does no one ever tell us how much work a successful marriage will take. Or that it's worth it. Sounds like you have that figured out. Hugs!

Guerrilla Mom said...

I loved this. Happy Anniversary!

carrie said...

This is the sweetest and truest thing I've read today. Happy belated anniversary to you and your husband.

Robbie K said...

Thank you very much :)

Robbie K said...

Thanks for your sweet words.

Robbie K said...

Yes. I think we're both ready for the "for better" part of this.

Robbie K said...

I guess you could say we get the 7 year itch for moving...

Robbie K said...

Thank you very much. Many of my got married before I did but I don't remember being told how hard it is...maybe they didn't want to scare me?

Robbie K said...

I love what you said about the numbers adding up. Please feel free to borrow it for your anniversary post. I'd be flattered.

Robbie K said...

Thanks. We're thrilled to be together again.

Robbie K said...

Thank you.

Robbie K said...

No easy button for marriage is there?

Thank you.

Robbie K said...

Thanks for your kind words and support.

Robbie K said...

Congratulations on your anniversary! I was almost 29 when we got married so I thought I had things figured out...ha jokes on us!

Robbie K said...

Thank you. I think we keep figuring things out as we go along.

Robbie K said...

Thank you :)

Robbie K said...

Thank you on both accounts.

Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms said...

So sweet! Happy Anniversary! So glad the commuter stage is over. Ellen

Jennifer said...

Awww... very sweet!

Amy McMean said...

I like this post very much. It gives me hope, i'm getting married in 6 weeks so it's a good reminder, that things get tough but that doesn't mean it's impossible. :)

Carissa said...

Love it!

Denise said...

"Times I thought we were too broken, too shattered.
Times the end of the tunnel was just another cavern of darkness."

So many women can relate to this feeling. You wrote this quite poignantly (where's spell-check for that word). But I like how you show the brightness of marriage. Great piece!

My link-up is not as poetic, but I hope you will stop by and say "hi!"