Friday, May 24, 2013

Fractured Friday #43

I've been all over the place lately. Well everywhere except here. I remember when I first started blogging and I'd find a fabulous blog that I would read faithfully. And then I'd notice more and more days would pass between posts and then weeks would pass. Sometimes it would be months. Or maybe there would be an "I need to take a break but I'll be back" post. So I'd stalk for awhile and see if she would come back. Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. Then there were the "I'm done blogging" posts. 

I was a newbie and it all seemed so foreign to me. I didn't get how someone could leave something they claimed to love so much. To leave something that kept them sane and connected. And yet here I sit with only a handful of published posts over the last few months. The longer I stayed away the harder it became to come back. I've been writing in my head and with my heart but I can't seem to get the words out. So much has changed and yet much remains the same.

I don't want to leave this space but I'm not sure how to get back to it.

Advice?

12 comments:

Kathleen Michiganleft said...

I am in the same boat, sister. I have had little or no desire to write. In my case, I think it's because things are going well and I feel as if I have nothing interesting to say. Who wants to hear, "My life is going great. Everything is fine. All smooth sailing, folks." On the other hand, I feel as if I should force myself to write before I stop altogether.

I would hate to see you stop blogging. I love your voice. But I understand how you feel.

Marianne said...

Oh I've been there! Give yourself a target - "I will write something every Monday & Thursday no matter my mood!" It will come back. I promise. xoxo She-Who-Knows-Everything

Lillian Connelly said...

I've been in this mode lately too. I actually feel angry at my blog as if it were a real person antagonizing me. I keep posting even though I fantasize about setting it on fire...as if that were even a possibility! We went a way for a few days last week and I had zero desire to check out my blog when I got home. Just thinking about Facebook made me want to accidentally drop my phone in the toilet. I know this lethargic, cranky attitude toward writing will eventually go away and be replaced by excitement again so I just try to ride it out. I am like Marianne, I keep writing as a form of discipline...or torture. It's important to me to get better at all of this. It's just like marriage. Sometimes it goes easily and sometimes it is truly hard work, but if you want to be in that relationship and have a 50 year anniversary you just have to stick with it through the good times and the bad.

@dkotucker said...

No advice. When you get some though...would you pass it along my way please? ;P

Sometimes life "gets in the way" for good and not-so-good reasons and that's not a bad thing. At least for me anyways.

Hope the reasons are the good ones for you. I've always enjoyed reading your blog and will continue to stalk you until you say you're done.

Take care Robbie, DI

Robbie K said...

At first I wanted to write but things were too raw and hard and I just couldn't and the longer I stayed away the easier it was to not come back. But I'm trying.

Robbie K said...

That's a good idea. I've never really posted/written on a schedule it's been more of a whenever I feel like it and I haven't felt like it for a long time. It feels like I might not be able to get it back...but I have to at least try right?

Robbie K said...

You sum it up very well. I have been in major avoidance mode and I just need a kick in the ass to get back there.

Robbie K said...

It's been a mix of good and not so good reasons but I don't want to jump ship...just not sure how to keep afloat right now.

Carolyn Y said...

I loved how you said it, "I've been writing in my head and with my heart but I can't seem to get the words out."
For me, I often take a week or two off. It mostly happens if I have visitors, or a vacation coming up.
I can usu. get back into it, because I do honestly love blogging.

Cheryl Talma said...

I can totally relate to this post - it isn't that I don't want to write, or have time to write - I just feel like sometimes the words flow better than others - and for almost two months, they didn't flow. In retrospect, I wrote some posts that created an intense feeling of vulnerability - a good thing overall, but I needed to have time to 'recover' for lack of a better word. In the end, I just tried to trust that when the words were ready to come, they would. And they have. Maybe not as consistently as I would like - but certainly with more frequency than they have been. Hang in there - it's clear you have a lot to offer your readers - and my experience is, most of us are a pretty patient bunch :)

@dkotucker said...

I hear ya. Try not to put any pressure on yourself to blog if you don't feel like it. I've been going off-line more and more these days and it's not a bad thing. Easy to get sucked into the whole social media vortex of doom. ;)

Hang in there! (((HUGS)))

kellykpb said...

I started blogging when a friend me a 40 day challenge. I had to blog every day for 40 days and then I could take a break. Really helped get in the habit. I've since issued the challenge to others. Some take it, some don't. Interested?