Monday, November 14, 2011

Q & A

Why Fractured Family Tales?
Because I am the mom and I get to name it!  It describes our current family situation, it's something I write about often and I feel it goes a long way in defining least for right now. In October 2010 we had to make the life changing decision to split our family up in order to keep our lives from falling completely apart. And this is our story. (Cue Law and Order music)

Isn't it hard?
Hell yes it is but parenting and life is about making hard choices. We feel this is the only choice that makes sense for our family right now. We never expected to be living like this 13 months later but much has happened and this is where we are.

How often do you get to see each other?
Not often enough! Since Big Yankee moved 1231 miles away in August we have seen him once...for 3 1/2 days. Our current financial situation and his job duties make it impossible for him to come home for Thanksgiving. He will be here for Christmas though and we are all counting the days! In the previous 7 1/2 months before that we were able to see each other MOST weekends. Big Yankee lived 2 hours away and stayed with other family members during the week.

Isn't is hard on the kids?
Can I get another Hell yeah? We haven't had a "normal" living situation for the past 13 months. There have been many, challenging transitions due to jobs, health, finances and logistics in general. For three months I lived here with two kids while WOH FT and Big Yankee lived in another state with StinkBug (3 1/2 at the time) worked and lived with family. Next he lived with all three kids in a family members house and I lived alone. That lasted for about a month and then a family emergency resulted in Stink Bug moving back with me and Big Yankee, Einstein and Peanut living out of state. Then of course there was this summer when we were both laid off and we ALL lived under the same roof for ten weeks....four of which we spent traveling across country. We have had our house on and off the market for the last 8 1/2 months. Yeah....good times.

 Do you have any help?
We have very supportive family who do whatever they can to help. Unfortunately we don't have anyone that lives locally so there isn't the day in day out on site help. We take weekend trips to see family as circumstances allow. I am so grateful for my amazing dad and brother who go the extra mile to give the kids a hands on male role model since Big Yankee isn't able to be here.

What do you blog about?
I am just getting started so who knows what all I will write about. Some of the things I write about now are:

*my family
*surviving in a commuter marriage
*early childhood
*gifted children

So what else do you want to know?


Dee said...

How hard! Big big hugs!

The Preppy Girl in Pink said...

I want to know who your three favorite bands/singers are...GO!

Robbie K said...

@ The Preppy Girl in had to ask me a tough one didn't you? I am one of those ppl who can't even remember the names of songs I like!I will have to fall back on my country faves...they are easier to remember:
Lady Antebellum, The band Perry & Miranda Lambert.